A Little Rant...

...about bad manners.

I participated in the June 2006 DTC Group's first cybershower last month. The theme was Red, White, and Blue. As soon as I had the name of the person I was supposed to shower, I went to Target and purchased several baby items that fit the theme. Then I wrapped them and mailed them. I emailed the person I was sending the gifts to, just to let her know they were on the way.

No response.

Several weeks pass.

I email her again to ask if she'd received them, or not.

No response.

So, this is really bugging me, because I want to know that she received the package. I don't expect her to fawn all over me with gratitude, but I'd like a simple acknowledgement. Just now I checked the database for the June DTC group, and I see that she has a blog. I wander on over to her blog to see what's going on in her life. She's been blogging away, but makes no mention of her cybershower gifts.

Am I wrong to expect her to acknowledge receipt of the gifts I sent? Is it worth commenting on her blog about it?

I guess you don't have to have good manners to adopt a baby from China...

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Update: I posted a little reminder on the June DTC group last night. Only two people have responded. The first was sweet, but offered possible excuses for the situation. The next person who responded admitted that she had not thanked the person who sent her a gift, but that she'd moved in that time and been without a computer, etc. She was not my cybershower match.

Then Johnny's post today reminds me that just because we're all sharing the experience of adopting from China, doesn't mean that we would all be friends in the real world - that there's a diversity of opinions and behaviors in this community.

And, with that, I'm letting it go!

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Update #2: I guess I'm not letting it go. The recipient of my gift responded this morning by posting to the group. She didn't acknowledge that she had recieved my gift and was now saying thank you. She was just angry with me for posting about it at all - mind you, I never referred to her by name, I just pointed out that we should be saying thank you and that I hadn't heard from my pal, yet.

This is something that I really don't like about these Yahoo groups. It seems like people are very quick to get angry with one another. Another thing that baffles me is why people want to make excuses for themselves or others for not saying thank you. It's such a simple thing to do. Yes, life is busy. I know that firsthand, but unless you or a loved one is in a coma you should say thank you.

So, I guess I look like the bad guy now for bringing it up. Whatever...