Slightly Stressed

Word is the CCAA will be issuing new restrictions this fall for prospective adoptive parents, and possibly further restrict or exclude single applicants. It seems likely that this will not apply to me and other single applicants already logged in, as historically, new restrictions have applied to new applicants. But nothing is certain right now. This isn't the first time I've heard this rumor, but it is the first time that several agencies have formally put it out there. They must know something.

I am not going to let this get to me unless I hear definitively that it affects me. I do feel for those in the midst of the paperchase, and those who are waiting for a singles' spot. Do what you can to get it done!

I guess what really bothers me is that worldwide there are so many children in need of a family, and yet politics keep them in orphanages, foster care, on the street, or working at a tender age for those wanting to exploit them and/or use them for cheap labor. And yet here we are, with big hearts, a desire to parent, and the resources needed to raise a child, but it's so difficult to navigate the ever changing currents of adoption.

And as if it's not difficult enough to prove yourself to the governments involved in the process, there are those within the adoption community itself passing judgement on other prospective adoptive parents. They assert that some people in the process shouldn't be allowed to adopt because they are too old, or they already have children, or are single, etc. And while those things might make sense on paper, when you know the people who would be impacted by those restrictions it doesn't make sense at all. Some fifty year olds are in great health and they have the life experience and patience to raise a child. Families with children already can offer an adopted child siblings and all the more love because of it. And single women, who haven't found a worthy husband yet (that's a whole other post!), but have much to offer a child and the natural desire to be a mother will make wonderful parents (if I do say so myself...).

So, as things get more stressful due to the possibility of greater restrictions, let's not turn on each other and make it worse. If this is meant to be for each of us, then it will surely happen.