Friday, December 01, 2006

November Referrals

From my agency:

America World is pleased to announce that we received 34 healthy
female referrals today! Families receiving referrals were logged into
the China Center of Adoption Affairs on August 26 and 30th(groups
227-229).The little girls are currently located in the Guangzhou,
Hunan, and Jiangxi provinces and range in age from 7 months to 2 1/2
years. Please join us in congratulating these families, and in praying
for them as they prepare to travel.


Congratulations to all the families!


On another note...

Yesterday's cutoff date for referrals was a huge disappointment for many of us hoping for signs of a speed up. I know that I really struggled Wednesday night while waiting for news of the cutoff date, and then yesterday morning I actually cried a little in front of my students as I explained what was occurring. Poor kids! They didn't know what to make of their grief-stricken teacher. I did try to explain to them that I was just trying to figure out how to handle one of life's disappointments - that things don't always go the way we expect them to and it can hurt our feelings. I told them I would probably be fine in a little while, and I was.

So, once again I'm trying to adjust my expectations for this journey. It's a bitter pill, isn't it?

Let's see:
  • Scenario 1 was a 8-9 month wait.
  • Scenario 2 was a 10-12 month wait.
  • Scenario 3 was a 15-18 month wait.

Each time I recalibrated my plans and found the good in that new time frame. Guess that's what I need to do once again.

Oh, and pray for miracles...

21 Comments:

  • At 4:51 PM, Blogger Jennifer "Jenny" said…

    I'm praying with ya!

     
  • At 4:54 PM, Blogger Connie said…

    Yup. I'll hope and pray for the best but am prepared for 2008....at least mentally if not completely emotionally.

     
  • At 5:04 PM, Blogger eggrolls and chopsticks said…

    I am not prepared for 2008...eek I typed 09 by mistake. It will be 07 cos this is absurd and unacceptable and quite frankly I don't care how darned spoiled I sound!
    Yikes.....was that really me?

     
  • At 6:00 PM, Blogger Paulette said…

    When I read on sites of those families that recieved referrals that they have been in the process for 2 years from the time they decided to adopt, I think to myself that we have a year or so to go. I'm coming up on my 1 year in Jan. What about you?

     
  • At 6:18 PM, Blogger Ford & Alyson said…

    We're all going to be fine. Our daughters are going to be shining lights in our world and a family we share together. And while we wait, God will cover them with his hands in preparation for the family He has planned for them and for us.

    I know - not very PC but my heart is my heart.

    Hang in there. I can appreciate your honest emotion openly expressed in front of your kids. Maybe we all should be as willing to let who we are show through more than we do.

    You shared with them a lesson in humanity that I hope they reflect on for years to come if not forever...

    fm

     
  • At 6:22 PM, Blogger new girl said…

    This month was really hard, wasn't it? I know we'll all be OK, but it's hard not to have expectations...

     
  • At 6:36 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I hear you - it's just hard to sit back and wait!! Right there with you and we're just waiting to be logged in at this point - we're REALLY in for the long haul. I'm praying for a speed up!!

     
  • At 7:51 PM, Anonymous Jenny said…

    Man. This just stinks. I am praying that the CCAA speeds things up. There are babies, and mommies and daddies out there waiting. Wanna come over for dinner soon??

     
  • At 8:28 PM, Blogger Kathy and Joel said…

    Your students are very lucky to have a teacher who gives so much of herself to them. Keep your chin up, sweet girl

     
  • At 5:46 AM, Blogger Donna said…

    I'm hoping for Scenario 1 for ya!

     
  • At 10:21 AM, Blogger Kate M said…

    I'm praying very hard each and everyday that things calm down/speed up with the adoption process. Those babies and children have open loving arms waiting for them!
    Hope you have a good weekend.

     
  • At 1:38 PM, Anonymous Jacquie said…

    I guess I can only compare this to when we were trying to get pregnant with out 2nd DD, that journey took us 4 years. Although I'm not sure how all this works, I can offer my prayers and good thoughts that your journey will bring your little girl to you sooner rather than later. Hugs.

     
  • At 2:31 PM, Blogger Shana said…

    Oh, honey! I am so sorry about this awful wait- I *know* it doesn't help, but when you get that referral- it will all make sense... For some reason, I was thinking about you in the middle of the night- you have really been on my mind. You know I hold a special place for all single moms (especially you) in my heart. So please, let me send you ((((hugs)))) all the way from Guatemala and know that we love you down here just as your little baby who may have already been born loves you from afar. Oh, and kisses from Sophie Lu & Bella too!

    Love, Shana
    p.s. Don't worry about crying in front of your class- It used to happen to me once in a while too- and honestly, I think it helps teach kids empathy- something the current generations tend to lack. xoxoxo

     
  • At 3:51 PM, Blogger Joannah said…

    Paulette - It's been fourteen months since I made the decision to adopt. I waited to turn in my application because I didn't want to get my referral before I finished my masters! LOL!

    Ford - I'm not a PC kind of gal. God is/will be watching over our girls (and us) until we can be united with them. Your words are so true, and they touch my heart. I'm glad to be sharing the wait with you and Alyson.

     
  • At 5:18 PM, Blogger Kathryn said…

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  • At 5:21 PM, Blogger Kathryn said…

    Aargh will I post this correctly! We are now officially starting our journey to our daughter and I am praying for 2008 and not '09, but a big thing for us is how they handle things around the Olympics and how quickly we can actually be DTC and then LID. There it's correct, finally!! LOL!!

     
  • At 7:41 PM, Blogger Wicked Witch said…

    Sucks to be all of us this week.

     
  • At 7:45 PM, Blogger Elise said…

    I definately am praying for a speed up but each month I am let down but I will continue to pray too!

     
  • At 8:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I am with you also. I have recalculated so many times I can't even count straight any more. LOL

     
  • At 10:48 AM, Blogger wzgirl said…

    I think that it was likely a very valuable experience for your students to see your honest emotion & then recovery. It is normal & kids are often so protected by adults - I think that it is so important for them to see that feelings are ok & a very normal, important part of life.

    XO

    PS - I was (((sooooo))) bummed to see the September referal numbers. When we left for Mexico - it was supposed to be ALL of Sept. Bummer to see once i finally got online (glad I didn't look while we were away).

     

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